Wordsmith's Notebook

Monthly Archives: May 2016

    It was a wonderful May morning in 2015.  My Partner and I, with two friends and their dog (her name is Caddy), had decided upon a day boating on The Broads; a delightful and extensive waterway in the counties of Suffolk and Norfolk, here in England.     We had set off, early.  Waking up early is never an enjoyable experience for me.  I have a chronic illness that makes movement… Read More


     Albert Ellis (1913 – 2007) was born in Pennsylvania, USA, in 1913 and he went on to become a renowned and celebrated Psychologist.  My own research leads me to find that a lot has been written about the upheavals he faced in his younger life; from relocating to a life in New York at age four, the often absence of his father, the Divorce of his parents when he was… Read More

I was recently interviewed about my work as a Counsellor, Psychotherapist and Clinical Supervisor for The Natural Health Centre Newsletter.  Here’s how the interview went: Dean, what first brought you into Counselling and Psychotherapy? Well, my upbringing was happy, but we experienced quite a lot of heartache; we sadly lost beloved family members to Leukaemia, Cancer and Brain Haemorrhage. This taught me to value life, from an early age.  My childhood was unconventional; my… Read More

     I have a few cousins in beautiful Australia.  When we were children, two of these cousins, Jackie and Julie, told me that everything is really upside-down in Australia.  This was where they came from, so who was I to argue?  This was back in the late 1970’s when they were, themselves, still kids and I was just six years old.  This is a photo of us, back in the day;… Read More

    I am reflecting, today, on my passion for writing.  I have stacks of short stories, plays and poetry that I have not yet shared.  My Partner and I moved away from London in 2007.  We settled in the beautiful English county of Suffolk.  Since then, I have achieved a number of personal and professional ambitions; to live in an old country cottage in a beautiful village and to live within… Read More

One of the things that my clients commonly struggle with, is their sleeping patterns.  Certainly, when we are experiencing emotional difficulty; for example at times of increased stress or anxiety, our ability to sleep can be disrupted. As a Counsellor and Psychotherapist, here are some of the things that I recommend: Set your morning wake-up alarm for the same time each day.  If your alarm is music, then set some music that… Read More

Here in the UK, at the end of 2015, a landmark new law came into effect that criminalises the act of Psychological Abuse perpetrated against a Spouse, Partner or Family Member.  This is a major step forward in addressing the broader problem of Domestic Abuse where, historically, Domestic Abuse was only considered to be physical abuse and violence.  This change in law recognises that Domestic Abuse includes isolating a person, controlling them,… Read More

     I was so lucky to have been brought up in such a creative environment.  On one occasion, I remember feeling excited.  What little boy doesn’t like going to the office with his Dad and getting the chance to see where his Dad works?  Well, I was no different.  It was all very exciting yet, as we approached the gated entrance, everything looked austere, official and rather foreboding, to me.   My… Read More